There comes a time when reality becomes unacceptable. It makes us wonder “Is this real?” Most of you may think of the more unfortunate events that trigger this betrayal of trust of what is versus what is not. It happens when someone close by dies, when we lose our jobs, or when a great disaster takes place. And you wonder, “Is this REALLY happening?”
Well, I’m not here to talk about that. I’m here to talk about those events that throw us out of whack because of CHANGE. I’m here to talk about when “good” and “bad” change happens and we stay stuck at that point right before it happens. We mentally can’t go on. Or we do, but there’s still something lagging back.
My Story
In the past year, I’ve gone from a druggie to a somewhat vegetarian individual (I still eat fish, sorry). I’ve gone from a hard working student at University of Houston to a near dropout at a community college. I traveled across the US to see my best friend and to live with her. I traveled back to Houston with her and I’m going to adopt a child with her. I used to not work, and now I’m self-employed, and along with my roommate, we have a nice apartment and a good life (financially and otherwise).
As you can see, that’s a lot to take in, and I haven’t really scratched the surface of everything yet. There’s still a lot more such as my realizations, my progress in spirituality, my everything.
So what about it
Well, here’s what I’m talking about. The “good” and the “bad”, big changes throw us off balance. I’m still struggling to accept the reality of what’s happening. We unconsciously try to revert back to the familiar. I, for example, have started pushing my best friend away, a defense mechanism meant to revert me back to where I used to be, alone. I’ve also started closing myself from my dogs Ivy and Mona and alienating from them because again, I’ve started to feel like I was in a dream.
Be it a dream or a nightmare, this is what we do. We attempt to revert back, go back to that initial situation because frankly, we just lose touch with reality.
How to counter it
There is no “countering” it, there is only acceptance. You need to live with what’s happening, or dream of a different situation you wish to attain. My approach to this issue right now is to breathe and live each moment without falling into some habit, into a future/past thinking. I feel like I’m in a dream or a video game and what I’m trying to attain is the sense of being HERE and not elsewhere.
Here are a few tips if you’re in a situation like I am:
- don’t try to figure a way out of it (if it’s good or bad, just keep it)
- do “rooting” exercise for your 1st chakra such as keeping red-colored decor, and wearing red. Google some other methods
- write down how you feel, explore the disconnectedness
- explore what your life was before and how it is now, what’s the difference? What are you wishing back?
- Try to exercise physically, it helps you stay in your body instead of floating about.
I’d love to hear your experiences, comment on this post and let me know how it’s going.
